For my next hair cut, I'm going to take that picture of you at the bottom of your post and tell the hairdresser to "give me the Amy". You look absolutely fab, as always.
We’re all in the same boat, which is why I love how you write so spot on about it all. I’m also a sucker for all those Instagram haircuts, though I’m trying to stop. Maybe the perfect haircut will change everything! But you really did just get yourself an amazing cut! You look adorable. Dying hair is a money drain and shitty for the environment. Let it go sister!
Words of wisdom, thanks Angel. I went to the (no joke) oldest stylist I could find, thinking "he learned to cut hair when the Rolling Stones had great hair, he'll know what to do and won't be trendy" and it actually worked, though there was a moment where I worried about the scissors so close to my eyes. Yes, aren't those IG reels addictive - I need to stop too! xx
You are beautiful!!! We can never see ourselves as others see us, but no one sees us the same way – which is why the external validation is all so futile. Look yourself in the eyes and see all your humanness. This is the where (y)our real beauty lies.
To quote Fleabag, “Hair is everything. We wish it weren’t, but it is.” I made the leap to gray back in 2021, when everyone was still feeling squirrelly about the pandemic, and we weren’t seeing as many people. I never looked back. There’s something freeing about looking people dead in the eye like, “Yep, this is me. Take it or leave it.” (And I’d already gotten used to people calling me ma’am when I was still coloring my hair and my kids were little, so why not?) Good luck with your decision.
Thank you Donna and thanks for the reminder of the wisdom of Fleabag! Things I hem and haw about she just comes right out and tells it. I have a feeling whatever decision I make will be...subject to change at any time!
I wish I could go to the hairdresser once a week like my grandma and get the ‘do. If you have that, you don’t have to think about it or even wash it. However, it is a bit stiff and decidedly non youthful, which may be okay at this point!
Yes..these dilemmas. I can so identify with this! I ended up going for blonde because grey grows in so well in blonde and if I decided to go grey it might be an easy transition. Right? Then when I see some of the courageous girlfriends my age that just embrace their grey, I say good for you. But going grey, I feel, would just instantly make me old. There I gave in! I also think, but what a bout Patti.. but you said it.. I have dyed my hair since I was a young teen so why stop now? Even toying with a bright unnatural punky color. Do I dare? Or would that make me a crazy old lady? And here I was thinking these are uniquely my problems ;). I can see so many parallels in all your words. Thanks for your great writings <3
Thanks Truus! Yes, so many haircolors over the years - I worry I'm not willing to do the rest of the grooming/makeup that goes with the super-vivid color but maybe some day. Not quite ready to go full kooky. I love your blonde, looks great.
Lots of comments, and as a person our age, notably crucial to my marriage and happiness. No to color, yes to finding the best possible style. Being well groomed is essential for me these days, as the last defense before giving up completely, which I hope I never do. I keep my hair maintained by cutting it every four weeks, and it reduces the time when my hair is slightly off a great deal. Love all the comments about how sexy you look, which is amusing to me because you, to me, are more than that by far: you are lovable.
Ha ha, these days Clerkenwell is full of well paid pretty people with expensive haircuts, liked it better when it was kinda rundown and a pie a eel shop was in business on Exmouth market (There’s a Waitrose there for crying out loud). Good writing as allways!
I did like seeing all the nice cafes and stuff Jim but I can sort of remember East London when you still saw bombed out areas from WWII. (and I do like Waitrose!) But I also wonder what do all the people do that pays so well? Thanks for reading and take care!
Amy, your hair is finely textured, and like mine, it gets “endy” over time. This means the hair at the tip just dries out and looks frizzy. No amount of conditioning will help it (ok, deep conditioning one time will help it look great, but keep that up and you’ll have no body). Best to have regular shaping haircuts every 5-6 weeks to keep the ends of your hair supple and shapeable. As to color, your hair is selectively graying (mine also), and the overall effect is dishwater. I blonde up, mostly on top. You may want to continue to darken down just to keep that meh at bay. But leave Cruella’s stripe!
Ever since your first album I’ve seen you as the older sister I didn’t have telling me what to expect in a few years and showing me how to navigate it with beauty and grace. Thank you.
That's really sweet Holly, I never had a sister but somehow always imagined they'd be older than me. It's nice to think of myself as a role model, thank you!
well-written (as usual - how does one spell uje?)! i don't feel like part of this world, ha ha, but i DO think gray is (or can be) sexy! what i CAN say is that you still got It! funny how we have to work for what came naturally, before. but, it's worth it. right? right. xxxcm
What you write is all so true for many of us. I try not to look in the mirror too often these days. But a good haircut after letting it go always helps me. That is a great after photo, bravely head on ( unlike me) looking fabulous. Truly!!
For my next hair cut, I'm going to take that picture of you at the bottom of your post and tell the hairdresser to "give me the Amy". You look absolutely fab, as always.
Aww, that is so sweet! I feel like I've arrived, thanks Leslie.
We’re all in the same boat, which is why I love how you write so spot on about it all. I’m also a sucker for all those Instagram haircuts, though I’m trying to stop. Maybe the perfect haircut will change everything! But you really did just get yourself an amazing cut! You look adorable. Dying hair is a money drain and shitty for the environment. Let it go sister!
Words of wisdom, thanks Angel. I went to the (no joke) oldest stylist I could find, thinking "he learned to cut hair when the Rolling Stones had great hair, he'll know what to do and won't be trendy" and it actually worked, though there was a moment where I worried about the scissors so close to my eyes. Yes, aren't those IG reels addictive - I need to stop too! xx
You are beautiful!!! We can never see ourselves as others see us, but no one sees us the same way – which is why the external validation is all so futile. Look yourself in the eyes and see all your humanness. This is the where (y)our real beauty lies.
Thanks Kiki!
To quote Fleabag, “Hair is everything. We wish it weren’t, but it is.” I made the leap to gray back in 2021, when everyone was still feeling squirrelly about the pandemic, and we weren’t seeing as many people. I never looked back. There’s something freeing about looking people dead in the eye like, “Yep, this is me. Take it or leave it.” (And I’d already gotten used to people calling me ma’am when I was still coloring my hair and my kids were little, so why not?) Good luck with your decision.
Also, I think you look badass.
Thank you Donna and thanks for the reminder of the wisdom of Fleabag! Things I hem and haw about she just comes right out and tells it. I have a feeling whatever decision I make will be...subject to change at any time!
Honestly think you look great!
Thanks Jo!
I wish I could go to the hairdresser once a week like my grandma and get the ‘do. If you have that, you don’t have to think about it or even wash it. However, it is a bit stiff and decidedly non youthful, which may be okay at this point!
The helmet of curls! Or...turban? I do love a turban.
Yes..these dilemmas. I can so identify with this! I ended up going for blonde because grey grows in so well in blonde and if I decided to go grey it might be an easy transition. Right? Then when I see some of the courageous girlfriends my age that just embrace their grey, I say good for you. But going grey, I feel, would just instantly make me old. There I gave in! I also think, but what a bout Patti.. but you said it.. I have dyed my hair since I was a young teen so why stop now? Even toying with a bright unnatural punky color. Do I dare? Or would that make me a crazy old lady? And here I was thinking these are uniquely my problems ;). I can see so many parallels in all your words. Thanks for your great writings <3
Thanks Truus! Yes, so many haircolors over the years - I worry I'm not willing to do the rest of the grooming/makeup that goes with the super-vivid color but maybe some day. Not quite ready to go full kooky. I love your blonde, looks great.
Lots of comments, and as a person our age, notably crucial to my marriage and happiness. No to color, yes to finding the best possible style. Being well groomed is essential for me these days, as the last defense before giving up completely, which I hope I never do. I keep my hair maintained by cutting it every four weeks, and it reduces the time when my hair is slightly off a great deal. Love all the comments about how sexy you look, which is amusing to me because you, to me, are more than that by far: you are lovable.
Grooming does seem to help, and here's to never giving up! Thank you Tony!
Ha ha, these days Clerkenwell is full of well paid pretty people with expensive haircuts, liked it better when it was kinda rundown and a pie a eel shop was in business on Exmouth market (There’s a Waitrose there for crying out loud). Good writing as allways!
I did like seeing all the nice cafes and stuff Jim but I can sort of remember East London when you still saw bombed out areas from WWII. (and I do like Waitrose!) But I also wonder what do all the people do that pays so well? Thanks for reading and take care!
Amy, your hair is finely textured, and like mine, it gets “endy” over time. This means the hair at the tip just dries out and looks frizzy. No amount of conditioning will help it (ok, deep conditioning one time will help it look great, but keep that up and you’ll have no body). Best to have regular shaping haircuts every 5-6 weeks to keep the ends of your hair supple and shapeable. As to color, your hair is selectively graying (mine also), and the overall effect is dishwater. I blonde up, mostly on top. You may want to continue to darken down just to keep that meh at bay. But leave Cruella’s stripe!
Yes, frequent cuts is a must Eline! Thanks and keep rocking the blonde.
I liked both pics. I might have a thing for gray (grey?). Glad you're keeping the Cruella white streak.
Thanks Hal!
Ever since your first album I’ve seen you as the older sister I didn’t have telling me what to expect in a few years and showing me how to navigate it with beauty and grace. Thank you.
That's really sweet Holly, I never had a sister but somehow always imagined they'd be older than me. It's nice to think of myself as a role model, thank you!
That's a great haircut! Some of us wish we had these problems.
But you look great in hats. Thanks Don!
I shared this one out loud with my wife this morning and we had a good laugh. Thank you and right on.
Thanks Pat!
well-written (as usual - how does one spell uje?)! i don't feel like part of this world, ha ha, but i DO think gray is (or can be) sexy! what i CAN say is that you still got It! funny how we have to work for what came naturally, before. but, it's worth it. right? right. xxxcm
Now there's a song Clarke (you often give me song ideas with your comments) about having to work for what came naturally before. Thank you buddy! xx
What you write is all so true for many of us. I try not to look in the mirror too often these days. But a good haircut after letting it go always helps me. That is a great after photo, bravely head on ( unlike me) looking fabulous. Truly!!
Thanks so much Karen, maybe it helps to let it go for a while, so coming back from the brink feels more dramatic!